Stress? How to deal with.

First I would like to notice that I consider any stress to be a conflict that may be caused by internal conflicts (in mind, in body) and by a conflict with one's environment (family, relation, society, nature factors - all  by all means). 

The ancients Romans used to say that 75 % of problems are resolved by themselves, without you. Either the meaning of it is that 75 % of  problems or anxieties are fabricated... or else... 

But If you examine your life you will find the truth in this old saying:

"It is the business of religion and philosophy to free us from all unnecessary anxieties",

 I would call it to be as well a duty of the arts. And I hope that my work in words and colours may be helpful.

What to do first? 

Anyway, before to go forward to the solution, 

the first thing is to ascertain the situation to find the source of disturb.

 Ask yourself and write all the possible answers down and study  

so 

�What kind of disturb?�

Internal or External???

Internal:  

Any kind of misbalance in the body or feelings? What possibly may create misbalance and why? Negative expectation, luck of Vitamins, internal intoxication by ...Speak to the doctor, go to Internet and etc. to get the right answer!

Here you shall check up everything, every factor, it is necessary!

What exactly is the source of your disturb? 

Can this factor be ignored, forgotten, isolated, left? Can you live without? Can you go over it? 

What is about the life behind of this factor? Without it? 

 Talk to yourself as to the best close dear friend and give the advice to? 

Write down, read and get answers to every point.

Feeling unhappy, depressed, weak??? �

 it may be caused by black glasses of vision and bad expectations

or misbalanced body system (unhealthy misbalancing life style)

If it caused by bad expectations, worries, bad thoughts, the lost or any bad experience of the pass ,  think and study why and what kind of the experience of the past and answer 

why the past worth making trouble to you today? Look around everything is changing!!!

And remember sorrowful song brings sorrowful existence.

 I learned it!!! 

and 

do not feed the Evil by any bad or evil  ideas and thoughts, do not feed the sorrow by a reply of the sorrowful experience of yours or the others. Remember, sorrowful song brings sorrowful existence!!! And when the kind of song goes into my mind I recollect the voice of Louis Armstrong: �Nobody knows the trouble I�ve seen, nobody knows but Jesus� from his �Louis and The Good Book� album. 

Everybody has own unhappy stories,

 and even the most cheerful one can tell you the most horrific you have ever heard. 

The life is not simple for anyone in the world 

and 

there are many who are in the worst situation and they live and find their way of get the best of it. 

You can even more � you are in the better position. 

 One doesn�t appreciate the life until he gets it�s meaning.

one day saw the reality of the last minutes of my life, of the whole universe life for me,

this day I got its value in seeing the beauty of nature 

(Tomorrow it may not exist for you)

 in every simple things, I have never appreciated  (It may not exist tomorrow to please me!),

 in work, I haven�t finished or done yet, in discovers I haven�t done yet, feelings, places I have never experienced, in true love I haven't met, in family, I haven�t build and the kids, I haven�t had

 And the world became so colourful, so exiting, so fascinating, so much magic, so meaningful to live in even being bedridden  as I was that time, just to be, to experience and learn,

 to get the solution and the score.

 It worth it and even more,  and the limits are to be ruined or accepted: 

there is no other way to live.

�The Lord gave us the strength for a change,

 the serenity to accept the things we can�t change,

 and the WISDOM to understand the difference�. 

And at the moment I recollected Mr.Pickul who was paralyzed by an accident, 

and all the doctors gave him a few month of life, but he gathered all his will-power and energy to recover.

 It was not an easy way, step by step when nobody believes it is possible and they say it is useless,

he was working on and again and again and again and  he had done it!!! He had done the thing that nobody in the world had had no belief in but he did  have the lively strong faith and had been working on it and got the result it is the only way.  It took a lot of time, months, years, but not the life, He got the fruits of his efforts, he is fine and active and started the life again doing things he really wanted and could step by step...

He got the real joy of life, a meaningful life.

He uses his method to help the others with the same problem to recover, but what it is important

he got the life, the faith in and it brought him everything.

�There was the entrance, so there is the exit� somebody said.

Think of the possibilities.

Study the subject and do things!!!

It took me about 3 years to learn the sources of and the treatments against to get complete recover

and some more years for liberating from the phantoms of the past that didn�t help in presence.

 Actually that time I had been studying and analyzing the facts and ideas about, the possibilities, the visions �.

And I was busy: reading, studying, working,having a start from setting  small  tasks, planning and working on

 and solving one by one, step by step, to the bigger and complex deeds. I had a positive perception and was ready to work to improve the life. And I did. All that brought me to the psychology.

 When I got a clue to the exit I wrote  �Substance of Freedom�

as a resume of my know-how to feel free to take the outside look at the own life.

 I hope it may help you as it helped me and the others. 

External:

There are many stress factors the environment may bring.

So the first thing is to get the inner balance or peace of mind

to be able to get a clear look and effective deeds.

External factors: poison leads into intoxication that provokes misbalance, for example.

 It may be noise of the street, or unpleasant irritating by something or by somebody.

Write down why it touches you and why it is worth your energy, time, nerves to spend thinking about. Thus,  External factors: what is wrong and how to change or accept.

Remember, �The Lord gave us the strength for a change,

the serenity to accept the things we can�t change and the WISDOM to understand the difference�.

If there is a search of oneself or the meaning of life or you are stopped by inner unhappiness

 try to help yourself, think, ask, read, go to a good psychotherapist or a Magician,

 try all possibilities to get out of troubles and out of bad perception.

there are some sayings that may clarify the said above:

Look at the art works, read the sayings, go forward to the studies.

 The article �Human Being fundamental types: sketchy description in words and colours�

 may help  to realize the general purport of Life.

and in art, in sayings, in books you may find out the way even in signs of the day 

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